Tuesday, 18 February 2014

How To Be Happy

As cliché as it sounds, you should always (try to) be happy. I've been so lucky in life that I've been blessed with a wonderful family, amazing friends, my health and a home. I know that there are many in this world who aren't as privileged as me. Whenever something goes wrong, I find it physically impossible to be upset for longer than 10 minutes. At the age of nineteen, I'm aware that I haven't had a lot of life experience, but I like to think I've had enough to realise that feeling down is not worth it, no matter what. The phrase 'you only live once' is almost certainly recognised by everyone but it's very true. I can understand that for many, things have happened that have ultimately affected the way they feel, the way they live and their perception of life. Indeed, it is often difficult to completely eliminate the pain and suffering that a specific event has forced upon an individual but for the majority of us, what we deem to be 'problems' are rarely worth getting upset over. 
People often juxtapose problems with those of others who seem to be struggling more in their eyes and of course this isn't fair. Everyone is allowed to be upset and everyone is allowed to hurt in their own way if things go wrong. But our time is limited and you should make the most of every day because you always regret the time you waste feeling down. 
Always ask yourself if the problems you're facing which are putting you under strain will matter in ten years from now. Don't wait for happiness either, happiness is achieved when you make something out of the moment you're in. Lastly, let go of whatever it is that is hurting your heart and soul. 

Firstly, listening to happy music can have a dramatic impact on your mood. Driving in a car one day with one of my best friend's listening to songs I'd never heard before was one of the best days. Arriving home, I downloaded all of the songs we listened to and haven't stopped playing them since. 

Lose Your Fear
Lose your fear of being wrong as well as your desire to come across as someone you're not,  in fear that the real you isn't what people want to see. Always be yourself, and say what you think and feel. It doesn't matter if people don't agree as long as you preach what you truly believe. 

Family is the most important thing. Spend as much time as you can with your mum, your dad, siblings, grandparents and cousins. I see my grandparents nearly everyday and I'm so grateful for my parents - they are the most amazing people and have always worked so hard to provide for my brother and I. So, spend as much time as you possibly can with the ones you love. 

Friends are very important. ALWAYS spend time with the happiest people, it makes a tremendous difference. Never waste days with people who feel the need to bring you down, or people who fail to make you smile and laugh. 

Travelling to new places, if only for a short period of time, is always a good idea. Sometimes people feel trapped by the same surroundings and a short break away acts as an escape from everyday living, especially if they're working every single day. Travelling doesn't always mean you have to get on a plane for new experiences, nor does it require you to spend extortionate amounts of money. A few days away to a seaside town will be just as exciting!

The Beach 
Go to the beach. Spend an entire day at the beach and then spend the entire evening there too. The beach is always a happy place. 

Go out for the night with some of your closest friends and spend the whole night dancing - literally, don't stop dancing. It doesn't matter what you look like or whether or not you're good at it. 

Saying Yes 
SAY YES. If someone asks you to go somewhere as a last minute plan - go. Spontaneous plans are always the most fun. 

Buy some sunflowers. They are the prettiest, happiest and loveliest flower and I can guarantee that if you place some sunflowers in your home, they'll brighten up your day. 

Eat good food. Eat bad food. Eat whatever you want. Never feel guilty about the food you consume. This may seem like a silly way to 'get happy' but people worry far too much about what they eat. If you want that second chocolate bar, then you eat that second chocolate bar. Who actually cares? I'd rather eat something than look back and think '...I wish I ate that'. Sounds like a crazy point but seriously, just eat what you want. I used to feel guilty about some of the things I ate and once refused a cooked breakfast my mum offered in a bid to eat healthily. The refusal of that specific cooked breakfast is most definitely my biggest, and possibly only regret to this day. (Exaggeration but partly true) (Completely true). 

Make Others Happy
Realising you're the cause for someone else's happiness is a brilliant way to make yourself happy. 

Get a hobby. Be passionate about something. People who are passionate about things are the most interesting people - they have things to talk about. If you ask the right questions, you'll discover how fascinating people can be. 

'If you can't figure out your purpose, figure out your passion. For your passion will lead you directly to your purpose'

More often than not, love is something that can make you feel completely and entirely happy one day, and on the opposite end of the spectrum, can be a concept that brings you pain. In life, people will undoubtedly experience heartbreak at some point in their life and it is without a doubt one of the worst possible things in the entire world. But never look back. Find the person who makes you completely, entirely and wholly happy. The person who brings out the best in you, the one who makes you smile and laugh and smile and laugh again and again and again. Make sure you tell people you love them too, often. Before something really great happens, things usually tend to fall apart. So keep going. When you meet the right person, you will have zero doubt in your heart. 

'When life is sweet, say thank you and celebrate. When life is bitter, say thank you and grow' 
- Shauna Niequist 

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